How to play your Night in

Get yourself organised so that your night in feels special and not the same as when your friends just pop around for impromptu visit. However, sometimes spontaneity in a party is crucial, as it feels wonderfully frivolous. Ideally send them out a week before, as this gives people time to reserve the date. So, if your social life is flat lining and you have the urge to shake up a few cocktails and the craving for a good belly laugh, then e-mail a few invites that afternoon with the invitation to hang out at your place the next evening. If you don't want your party to become an open house,…
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How to be a Good Lover

It may sound contrary to the dictates of charity, but we say this very definitely. Don't become engaged to a person out of pity, even though there is a saying that pity's akin to love. No real good ever came out of a courtship based a pity. It is a partnership that is bound to crash in the end. If any rule can be started, it is that a man should be older than his wife by anything from two to nine years. But it is a rule we should not hesitate to break if our hearts dictated a different course. Don't delay falling in love until you have reached…
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The sensible modern women

Do remember that the seaside in summer is the happy hunting ground of the flirt of both sexes. Take every precaution against sunstroke or, the even more dangerous moon stroke. Don't forget that same pack which contains the Ace of Hearts contains the Knave. My dear young Lady, that the girl who is inclined to flirt outrageously, or to ape masculine manners, is simply throwing on one side her greatest asset. Once a girl is engaged no true gentleman would pay court to her, and to allow those who are not to do so is to lower her own standard and to insult her fiance.Don't make the silly mistake of…
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Scarlet or Natalie?

If we wish to account for you mysteriously personal sexual tastes, we might begin by first trying to understand our no-less-subjective testes in art. Even if we appreciate the complexity behind the concept of sexiness, we can still feel puzzled by the fact that different people are turned by such different things. who does one person love Mark Rothko, for instance, but ha an instinctive fear of Caravaggio? Our preferences among these traits reflect our psychological histories.We crave in art those qualities that are missing in our lives. As with art, so with sex: here too the accidents of nature and the quirks of our upbringing cause us to reach…
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Adultery – The pleasures of Adultery

We are unlikely to be able to get grip on this notarious subject if we don't find first allow ourselves to acknowledge just how tempting and exhilarating adultery can be, especially after a few years of marriage and couple of children. So let us imagine yet another scenario. For its part, the impulse to rise family has been well known to the largest share of humanity since our earliest upright days in East Africa. In all this time, however, it seems to have occurred to almost no one that this project might need to be fused together with constant sexual desire as well as frequent sensations of romantic longing at…
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How to be a Good lover

Advice to Lovers Don't if you are of the male sex, think you are a great and mighty fellow whose manifold charms could not be withstood by the fair lady you have deigned to pursue. She is more expert by nature in the game than you are, and probably marked you down as her prey long before you had any ideas on the matter. Don't marry a man much younger than yourself. You want a man to protect you, not one that you might mother. Do be careful also let him do his own hunting. Don't think that a parade of you are many virtues will always attract men. Generally…
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How to be a Good Lover

To Lovers You are entering upon what is probably the most thrilling adventure in life. Certainly, it should be a time of extreme pleasure. There is an old, and often true saying, that "one expresses well only the love he does not feel". Most man and women have in them a certain amount of desire to act the dramatic, with result that affection told him halting and broken sentences is often much deeper than that which trips readily from the tangue. Don't forget that love's language is always on the side of the extravagant and is hardly framed for the rough wear and tear of everyday life. Many a lover…
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Impotence

It is generally easier to admit to having time in prison than to having suffered from impotence. There are few greater sources of shame for a man, or of feelings of rejection for his partner. It is a physical failure with moral connotations, flouting norms do decency and masculinity and seeming at once to rebuke the partner's personality and physical appearance. The tragedies that afflict the human race are many, but seldom are they as intense as those that strike in a bedroom after a couple have repeatedly tried and failed to secure that erection of the male. At such moments, suicide may no longer seem a remote or unresponsive…
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Adultery and sex

The three things we want in this sphere - love, sex and family - each affects and harms the others in devilish ways. Loving a person may inhibit our ability to have sex with him or her. Having a secret trust with someone we don't love but do find attractive and endanger our relationship with spouse we love but are not longer turned on by.Having children can imperil both love and sex, and yet neglecting the kids in order to focus on our marriage or our sexual thrills may threaten the health and mental stability of the next generation. Marriage is thus a bit like a bed sheet that can…
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How to think more about Sex. Part 5: Eroticism and Loneliness

This first moment, which decisively shifts us from relative strangers to sexual intimates, thrills us because it marks an overcoming of loneliness. The pleasure we take is not rooted purely in stimulated nerve endings and the satisfaction of a biological drive; it also stems from the joy we feel at emerging, however briefly, from our isolation in a cold and anonymous world. This isolation is something we all become acquainted with after end of childhood. If we are lucky, we begin comfortably enough on this earth, in a state of close physical and emotional union with a devoted caregiver. We lie naked on her skin, we can hear her heartbeat,…
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